An Eventful Christmas....

I haven't posted in several days. There has been a lot going on....

I spent Thursday afternoon with my family....I didn't get to spend much time with Dad because he was busy on the phone with his brothers and sisters making the arrangements. I just feel so bad for all of them....I know that it has been difficult for all of them..... :(

On Friday I went up to the station to spend the morning with my friends at the station....as a tradition....we always do that on Christmas Eve or the last "live" day before Christmas. It was fun. Definitely memorable...as always!!!! I always have a blast! It lifted my spirits!!! Friday was also our office holiday party & it went very well. We had a white elephant gift exchange and all gave donations to a person in need. I'm the "social coordinator" for our office meetings, etc. This was no exception....I love doing that stuff, though! It really cheered me up! We all wrote down our favorite holiday memories and I read them aloud. Then everyone guessed who's memory it was. Then, we also wrote down a reason why we love working for our organization. That was very inspiring and motivating! Reminscing with holiday memories was really fun, too!

Friday night - Anthony and I went downtown for me to finish shopping and I dropped him off at a friend's house to play Madden. Charlotte Russe was having a huge sale, so I got a pair of earrings, bracelet, a belt, pair of pants, a cami, and pair of pants for about $40!!!! Got some great gifts, too! Then, when I got home, Anthony and I decided to exchange gifts....he got me a pink sapphire and diamond necklace that I had been eyeing at the jewelry store...and a NEW BLENDER! YESSSSS!!!!! Mixed drinks, here I come!!!

Saturday - I got up and got ready. It was a long day! We went up to my grandmother's for dinner. We had a great visit! Then, we went to my mom and dad's for gift exchange. Anthony and I got some KILLER stuff! My brother is so awesome! He got us Sirius Satellite radio!!!! Mom and Dad got us some really cool stuff...I got some cookware, new gadgets, lots of great stuff for the kitchen! AND a retro piece of Blenko that I have been wanting. Anthony got a rare collector piece of Blenko (in opaline and cobalt --- his fave!) He also got an antique "road" sign that said Wrigley Field that mom and dad got him from an antique store. Gosh, we got so much stuff that I can't even name it. I felt bad because I didn't get a lot for my family, but they said that they enjoyed their gifts, so I guess that is all that matters..... Actually, all that matters to me is that my dad was happy....or seemed to be....he seemed to have had a good Christmas, despite all the other stuff going on.

Sunday - I got up at 8 AM. Started on the chocolate chip scones for breakfast. (Which turned out awesome BTW) Then, through the course of the day....homemade pasta sauce with italian sausage and beef, homemade lasagna, homemade italian sausage bread (I can't spell Minialotta???), self filled cupcakes, chocolate covered marshmallows, baked a pumpkin pie, manicotti, prepared the salad, thawed the shrimp ring, and Anthony's mom made some baked spaghetti....!!!! We ate about 4....a few people came over to share the holidays with us. There are a few others that are supposed to come by too but haven't showed yet.....I am so full that I feel like I am waddling like a penquin!!!! I've had two bowls of salad, a piece of lasagna, and some spaghetti....and a cupcake! Man, I definitely need to get my a** to the gym ASAP!

So, I have had a wonderful Christmas! I hope you have had a joyous holiday!

Continue to pray for my family during this difficult time....

Best wishes for the New Year!!!! Hey - speaking of New Year's...what are you guys doing to celebrate?

I could not imagine...

I could not imagine losing my dad. I don't want to think about it. But, since last night, that's all I can think about. I got a call from my mom last night that my granddad (my dad's father) passed away yesterday evening.

I am sad, but I know that Granddad is now back with Nana. Now he is not lonely. He will never be sick or lonely again. He will never struggle to remember someone's name...he will never forget a face...a place...or time...

Please pray for my family during this difficult time. I am worried about my dad. I love him so much and it hurts me to see him hurt.

I can not imagine losing my dad. I don't want to think about it....but since yesterday, that's all I can think about.......

MMMM....CUPCAKES!!!!

I just finished up in the kitchen...third night in a row. I am seriously considering finding a sweets anonymous group...I really think I need help! HAHA

What I baked tonight was my aunt's self-filled cupcakes. MMMM with buttercream frosting.

They are yellow cake mix cupcakes with a chocolate chip cheesecake filling...with homemade chocolate buttercream frosting (recipe to follow).

Like I told Annette in an IM post a few moments ago....."I just made the best cupcakes. OMG! I haven't had them since I was a kid...they turned out SO good....I swear...I'm considering marrying it.... :)"

My aunt made these for my birthday parties. I remember them being good, but I didn't realize you could feel LIKE THAT from a cupcake! The only dessert that has made me feel that good (before now) has been the walnut hot fudge cake with ice cream, hot fudge, and whipped cream from Blossom Deli in Downtown Charleston....

So, try this recipe...It will amaze any baker...and any guest. (It's SO easy!)

Self-Filled Cupcakes
1 pkg yellow cake mix
1 8 oz package cream cheese
1/3 cup sugar
1 egg
1 6 oz pkg chocolate chips (I use mini semi sweet)

Mix the cake mix according to pkg directions. Place paper cupcake liners in muffin tins. Fill liners 2/3 full with cake batter.

Cream togteher cream cheese and sugar. Beat in egg with a dash of salt. Stir in chocolate chips. Drop one rounded tsp of cheese filling into each cupcake (on top of batter). Bake according to pkg directions.

Makes 30. Frost with Buttercream Frosting.

Buttercream Frosting
1 stick butter or margarine (Can not use light or reduced fat...:( will separate/not blend properly
1 lb of confectionary sugar
2 or 3 tbsp milk
1 tsp vanilla
2 tbsp cocoa

Mix together until well blended. may have to add an additional tsp of milk, but mix well first before adding any additional milk. Beat until completely smooth and creamy.

Ice cupcakes.

Some lovin' from the oven!

I just got finished decorating my second batch of Christmas cookies. I forgot to get food coloring at Kroger, so they were iced white but sprinkled with red and green sugar. They taste pretty good...not quite as good as my Aunt's, but it's a start.

I have provided the recipes for my aunt's shortbread and sugar cookies below. I hope you enjoy them.

YUMMY! You don't get much better than butter and sugar. Okay, so I will DEFINITELY have to join the gym after the holidays.... :)

Sugar Cookies (Refrigerator Cookie Recipe)

5 ½ cups flour
2 tsp baking powder
1 tsp salt
2 sticks butter
1 stick margarine
2 cups sugar
4 eggs
1 tbsp vanilla

Cream margarine and butter add sugar…beat until light and fluffy. Blend in eggs and vanilla. Sift dry ingredients and add to other mixture; mix well. (really stiff)

Chill overnight. Roll out; bake on ungreased sheet 6 to 8 minutes in 400 degree oven.

Cool and then frost.

Makes 100+ cookies (I divided this recipe in half to make about 50 cookies.)

Shortbread Cookies

½ lb (2 sticks) margarine
2 sticks butter
1 cup sugar
4-6 cups flour

Cream butter, margarine, and sugar. Gradually add flour (3 or 4 cups and then mix by hand – knead) shape into small balls. Place on ungreased cookie sheet. Flatten with a fork or cookie press. Bake at 325 for 20 minutes.

(I LOVE these cookies with a cup of hot tea.)

It's beginning to smell a lot like Christmas....

After talking with my aunt today to get some of her FAMOUS recipes, I went to the store to stock up on baked goods. Unfortunately, the shelves were pretty bare and I wasn't able to buy the brands that I normally buy, but the cookies that I have made so far have turned out pretty tasty! The sugar cookie dough is in the fridge setting overnight and the shortbread cookies are in the oven. As I've posted several times in this blog, I love my aunt's shortbread and hot tea. So, after the first batch came out of the oven tonight, I had a cup of tea and a couple shortbreads. I will be posting the recipes later tonight in case you'd like to bake some up in your kitchen.

Anthony helped me roll out the shortbread cookies and he says that he will be helping me paint the cookies tomorrow night after they cool. I am excited that he and I are making our own traditions by carrying on some of mine from childhood.

It's beginning to feel, taste, and smell a lot like Christmas in the Wagner house. :)

More blessings this holiday season....

I wish I would have had the chance before now to let you know what has happened since Friday morning.... So, without further delay, let me begin....

Friday - While working at my desk, I received a phone call from my mother. (I know this is getting confusing....So, since I know all of you pretty well and I use names of people in my life already on this blog, I will just start using first names....My mother is Helen and my (step)Mom is Drema.) Anyways... Helen called and asked if Anthony and I were coming up to Mamaw's for Christmas Eve. I told her that I thought we weren't doing it this year....since we hadn't done that celebration for the past two years b/c of weather (we had it a week or so early last year). Anyways, I was ecstatic when she gave me the news. She was confused because she thought all along that we were getting together for the feast of roast, potatoes, and the fixin's. I somehow assumed that we wouldn't get together (because of the scheduling changes of recent years). You can imagine my excitement when she called me back, after confirming with Mamaw that we were getting together (because I had her so confused)!!!

So, that was blessing #1.

Friday night - I began my shopping for the family that I am sponsoring. I was able to get so many nice things between the two days of shopping (Friday and Saturday). My mother in law had a great time picking out gifts and just enjoying each other's company. The crowds were completely unbearable either. A great trip with my mother in law and the experience of doing something for others made me feel good.

Saturday - I went shopping with Annette and had a blast. She is so much fun. And, man, that girl is smart. I have learned so much from her and I am excited to find out what else is in store!
We finished up our shopping before 4:00! Much sooner than I had expected! Also, while we were shopping, my mother (Helen) called and wanted to give me $20 towards the family sponsorship. I was so excited! That is a total of $345 that was contributed by my loved ones to help this family.... We were able to get a TON of clothes, including coats for all three kids for under $200! With shoes, clothes, toys, gift cards for groceries and necessities for the mom, all in all, it was under $400!!! I just hope they like everything! Blessing #3 - Great day with a friend and doing something for someone else....AWESOME!!! (Plus, adding shopping into the mix just makes it even better!)

Then, after shopping, I spoke with mom (Drema) and she and Dad were in St. Albans shopping at KMART (for my brothers reading this...I'm not tellin' what they bought!!! You'll just have to wait! HAHA) They were getting ready to go to dinner...I was still stuffed from lunch with Annette, but I went for the visit. We had a blast. I really needed some quality time with the folks. Being with my mom and dad always lifts my spirits. Blessing #4 - QT with the folks!

So, after a weekend full of blessings (including my mother in law making homemade biscuits for breakfast YUM), I am ready for the holidays. Heck, I might even put the Christmas tree up today. After all, The Grinch even got into the holiday spirit at the end.....

May your holiday season be as blessed as mine has been.

I am so thankful for all of the blessings in my life...but most of all, I am thankful for my family. Whether times are tough or great, they are always there. Thanks! :)

Very busy weekend....

It's Friday...Finally!!! But....there's a catch! I have a very busy weekend ahead of me! I'll have to come back to work to get some rest! (HAHA)

Tonight, it's off to do some shopping with my mother-in-law. She needs to finish up her shopping and I will be going along for the ride (or the drive....since I will be driving). The only down side is that we have to go out Corridor G to get the things that she wants/needs. That place is pure craziness on the weekends...especially during the holiday season! So, that should be interesting!

Saturday is a big day! Shopping all day (since I only have a few gifts checked off on my list). My friend, Annette, and I will be headed out to Barboursville to hit the stores hard and heavy! I have a million things to do and not much time to do it! Only 9 days until Christmas! Well, 8 considering we exchange gifts on Christmas Eve. I haven't even finished making a Christmas List....OH NO!

Sunday, I will either be going up to my mom and dad's to visit or meeting my brothers for a movie in town. Either way, it will be a good day! :)

Anthony and I decided last night that we will start our own tradition this year and do our own Christmas dinner. Normally, we go to my parents' house for Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. This year, I'm going to create our own Christmas feast. I have cooked a turkey and the fixin's with my mom's help one time. I think I can do it, but I will definitely have my mom on speed dial! I hope that she will speak to me after I tell her that I won't be up to celebrate on both days. The past few years haven't felt like the Christmas celebrations of my youth....I miss the old traditions...and going back to those aren't possible, so I guess we'll start new ones. So, hopefully this will help with my lack of holiday cheer. :(

(Yes, I know....chastise me if you will...I still don't have my tree up at my house...other interior decorations are up, but no tree....maybe if I get inspired this weekend, I'll put it up. mmmm probably not.....)

My wish was granted...My prayer was answered...

In my recent post, I wished (and prayed) for something special to do this year....something different...something to help someone else. A friend of mine who I hadn't talked to in a month or so was telling me about how her organization still had some families that needed a "secret santa" sponsorship for the holidays. She was worried because it was so close to the holidays. I felt like it was a message. I mean, you can't get more obvious than that! Someone to come right out and say it....

So, that is my blessing for today. I've found something to bring back the spirit of Christmas in my life. I will spend my money on something important...someone else instead of another "thing" to collect dust in my house.

Friends are going to help me sponsor the family...I already have people telling me that they will help.

I am so blessed for what I have been given...now it is my turn to give to someone else.

Pray for all of those families in need this holiday season...and all year 'round.

Jen :)

Holiday Season....Cheers and Tears....

I have been thinking about this post for some time now. I guess with the holiday celebrations around the corner, I have been thinking about the celebrations of Christmas past. Baking cookies and decorating them all by hand...the cookie as our canvas and icing as our paint. Painting them with a brush and decorating with sprinkles. My aunt and I baked many goodies during the holiday season....coconut bonbons, sugar cookies, peanut butter balls, peppermint patties, bourbon balls, banana bread...the list goes on and on. (She did most of it, I was just a 'helper'. She is amazing in the kitchen!)

Listening to carols while making crafts for the church bazaar....My favorite 'carolers' are Brenda Lee, Burl Ives (who I believed was the "real" Santa Claus...well, he did look like it!), and many of the other classics. Every time I hear "Rockin' Around the Christmas Tree", I think of those wonderful times with my Aunt.

On Christmas Eve, we would go up to the Church and hear the story of Jesus' birth. Father Roy would read the story. Even when I was older, I always enjoyed hearing Roy Gene tell the story. Then, we would go down to the parish hall and sing "Happy Birthday" to Jesus and eat birthday cake that my aunt made. Then, we would go home and Mamaw and Aunt Jordan would prepare a feast for the family....open faced roast beef sandwiches with mashed potatoes and gravy...veggies...and all the fixin's. Then, we always had coconut cake (that Aunt Jordan made...what can I say? the women in my family can COOK!!!). My Uncle Joe always had cake with fruit salad instead...he doesn't like coconut. He washed it down with a glass of milk with ICE!!! (He is the only person in the world that I know that drinks milk with ICE in it!!!)

Then, the table was cleared and the dishes were cleaned. As a kid, I remember that this seemed to take an ETERNITY!!! Gifts could not be opened until AFTER the dishes were done. I usually bounced around the living room in excitement and anticipation. (My heart races just thinking about it.)

So, finally, my aunt would bring the gifts up to the living room from the downstairs. (They had to keep my presents hidden...I was a shaker and "present detective"...always wanting to know what I got before I opened it!) Then, I would open gift after gift.....I was really spoiled...errrr ummm blessed...Yeah, that's it....blessed. Looking back on it I really feel guilty. Granted, there were kids that got more than I did, but I still got much more than I needed. Maybe I shouldn't feel so guilty...my family did it because they loved me...and they wanted to spoil me....but I can't help feeling like I was a spoiled little brat. (That's because, many times, I was.... I got gifts on Christmas Eve from my family, a HUGE stocking on Christmas morning, and then I still got gifts from my mom and dad, too! (There were a lot of traditions...going to Nana and Granddad's, Christmas Eve at Mamaw and Papaw's, Christmas Mornings at Mom (step) and Dad's. Things changed as lives changed... Too confusing to go into all of it. It confuses me and I lived it!)

This was supposed to be cheerful and here I am being gloomy.....I just can't get over the thought that there are so many people out there that are not as blessed as I am. I have a wonderful home, a great family, a rewarding job, and I have a lot going for me. So, I hope that this season I will do more to help those in need. I have already given my annual gift to the March of Dimes, and we are collecting money at work for a person in need, and I have dropped money into the red bucket every time I see a bellringer. But, it still feels like I am not doing enough. I saw a segment on GMA this morning about Target and the Salvation Army teaming up to get items to families in need, many of the families were victims of Katrina. One child asked for a lantern....another asking for pajamas. A LANTERN and PJ's??? That's what they want? Not asking for Ralph Lauren PJ's or something outrageous or pricey or trendy. Just everyday things. It breaks my heart. I will try to stop crying long enough to log on and buy a few things today. (Marketing side note: GMA - You know what 'heart tugging' segments are all about. It worked!)

One step further is that I think of the people who do not have their families for the holidays...our soldiers overseas and their families....the victims of Katrina....people who have lost loved ones from a variety of causes. I have lost some members of my family, my nana (paternal grandmother) and Papaw (maternal grandfather), but I am blessed to have many of my family members still around to celebrate the holidays.

Many of my friends have had family and friends pass throughout year. Holidays are always difficult after a loved one's passing When people pass, the holidays don't feel the same....celebrations are changed...traditions are transformed into something new and strange... The traditional routine of the holidays change...and so do the emotions that are felt during the season.

I am going to spend as much time as I can with my family this holiday season and througout the year. Because, as I am reminded often, people that are here today, may not be tomorrow. So, spend as much time as you can with them. Enjoy them and celebrate them.

Not only is this holiday season a joyous time, but it can also be stressful, depressing, and akward. So, in your prayers, please remember those who are celebrating their holiday in a different way...that they will find comfort in the memories of holidays past, and find renewal in new traditions and in the new year...that there are good things to come...and that the people who are not with them physically are there spiritually.

My prayers are with everyone this holiday season. That your celebrations will be that....a celebration...of life, joy, and togetherness.

UPDATE....

Okay, so I know that I haven't posted in days.... I apologize. It's been pretty busy.

So, I have decided that even if it is a short post, I am going to post something every day. (Hopefully, I will stick to it. HAHA)

So, I have a few posts that I will be putting up over the next day or so. Lots of things have been going on, I just haven't had time to post them!!! HAHA

Okay, so here is goes......

Dancing the night away....In a new way! :)

A friend and I went to a FOOTMAD (Friends of Old Time Music and Dance) event last Friday night. A ContraDance!!!!! My friend and I were a little hesitant to go because of the "fear of the unknown". We checked out FOOTMAD's website and the description made the event sound fun...so we put on our jeans and tennis shoes after work and headed downtown for an evening of dancing!!!

We walked in slowly. We acted very shy (ok we felt it...which is shocking, I know...I am never shy)

After talking to a few folks for about five minutes, I saw a friend and her husband! I was so glad to know someone there! She and her husband gave us a little "crash" course for a few minutes before we got started. It was a small group to start, but by 8:30, it was a full house! Probably 40 people (if not more) had come out to join in the fun!!!

Contra is similar to square dancing....a mix of the dancing that you would see in medival times and square dancing...if you can make that comparison! HA (That is my comparison. For more info about ContraDancing, click here.)

There was a live band (three young and VERY TALENTED musicians from Northern WV) and a dance caller. It was definitely an experience that I want to continue.

So, the main thing to keep in mind....I am VERY out of shape...haven't been to the gym in months...haven't worked out at all for months.... By the end of the first dance, I was sweating and very winded. I thought...."Man, I need to get my butt to the gym!!! I'll have to get in shape to even do this!" HAHA

I think that some of the people I danced with felt bad for me, being winded and a beginner, so they went easy on me. However, there were a few that were outstanding dancers and they didn't cut me any slack. One older gentleman (about 60 or so) and I were doing a "swing" (a spin) and I felt like he had put me into a clothes dryer!!!! You definitely have to keep eye contact or you get very dizzy....although with this guy, it didn't help. I'm just glad that I didn't hurl! HAHA

Everyone gave me tips and advice on how to improve my technique, but everyone is there to have fun....and if you mess up, they don't take you out to the parking lot to beat you or anything. It is really all about fun.

So, I must say that I tried something new last Friday and it was a success!!!

Friday night was a living experience. Thankfully, even though I was winded, I was still able to feel the extreme sense of happiness and livliness that was flowing through the room. Every person in that room had a smile on their face. Friday evening was almost a spirital experience. It felt so good down in my soul to be dancing again...and with wonderful people. I was able to dance and work up a sweat without worrying about the people who had too many drinks or people getting the wrong idea. I have found a place to dance....and not in a BAR!!!

Dancing has always been fun for me and it has always uplifted me. A dance held in a church (an Episcopalian church, which made it feel even more comforting) with great people and awesome music. How can you beat that????

ContraDances are taking place all over the country. Click here to find out more about ContraDancing.

What's up with the news lately????

I started a post last night about the latest news reports on how marketing professionals and retailers are "taking Christ out of Christmas". I had a HUGE post that rambled on...and I ranted and raved. So, I deleted the old post and I am starting over.

I am just going to state my opinion and my reason and that is it. I am going to try to keep my emotions out of it.

So, here it goes.

The reports say that many stores are promoting the holiday season, rather than Christmas. Many people say from within and regarding these reports that the retails have taken Christ out of Christmas.

Okay, so there's the report and the comments.

Here's my comment. They are not taking Christ out of Christmas. They are bringing unity to the holiday season. If you are a Christian and you are speaking with another Christian, I feel comfortable saying, "Merry Christmas". If I do not know a person or if I am speaking to the public or group, then I feel that it is appropriate to say, "Happy Holidays". I feel that it is ignorant to assume that even though the Christian community is larger than other faith communities in the US, not everyone is a Christian. Everyone is entitled to celebrate their holiday.

Who better than the retailers and the marketing professionals to bring the unity to the forefront?

I am a Christian and this holiday season, I will be celebrating Christmas. Many of my friends will be celebrating Christmas, many will be participating in other celebrations. So, I say "Happy Holidays" to all of my friends, whatever their faith may be.

So, there's my point. And that it is...the point. I tried to keep my rants and raves out of it. I tried to keep my emotions out of it.

One final thought, many Christians have said that focus on the holiday season rather than Christmas is taking Christ out of Christmas. I say to them....I am a Christian and I celebrate my faith. I just believe that He wants us to show love, compassion, and tolerance to everyone, regardless of faith.

HAPPY HOLIDAYS!

****Question - as a marketing professional, would you not purchase your holiday items from a store who markets their holiday items as such rather than "Christmas items"??? Just a little survey for my professional life......

"Oh...the humanity!!!"

So, Anthony's mother and I went to Walmart last night. After I posted the last post, I called Walmart to see how long the line was, or if there was one yet. Oh, yeah there was!!! The lady on the other end of the phone informed me that there was quite a line and continued by saying, "Oh, honey, there's been a line for a while...One lady has been here since 5 this morning." I got off the phone, threw on some shoes, and headed for Wally World. When we got there, I realized that what the lady had told me was true...the line was LONG. As soon as we got in line, a Walmart employee went through the line and gave out numbers. They only had 45 systems and we were number 47. We didn't even get a number. So, we stood in line for about a half an hour and then I called Anthony. He said that he didn't want me to stand in line just for the core system (when he wants the complete system). So, I left there, ran in Goody's for a few minutes to look at their sale items, and then went home.

I went online (for the millionth time) to check if there was any available...of course there wasn't any. I won't buy one of these off of eBay b/c there are too many scams right now since these are hot items. Not something that I will risk...and besides, they want $700+ for them on eBay.
When I spoke with my brother yesterday evening, he said that there was already a line outside of Target. This was at about 5 or 6 PM, when they don't even go on sale at Target until 8 AM today!!! There was a line at Circuit City, too.

I called Kmart and they already had a long line outside the store at 9 PM last night and they didn't go on sale there until 8 AM. SO...I was not going to camp out in the COLD for it.

I guess Anthony will have to wait until after Christmas. :(

I understand the idea behind having a limited number of copies, but as a consumer, it infuriates me that there are not enough to go around! Besides, since it is a hot item, they could sell more if there were more available. According to CNN earlier this week, there were allegations that Microsoft had an agreement with their component suppliers that they could only produce "x" number of components before a certain date. This would provide the support that Microsoft needed to only issue a limited supply of the components.

So, I am curious. If you know that you have an item that will sell like "hotcakes" and there is a lot of hype around it, wouldn't you want to provide more to sell more? Or, would you want to spread it out over a few months to drive the hype farther and to keep your sales up over a longer time period? Considering that the PS3 comes out in '06, I guess Microsoft chose the latter of the two choices...and for good reason. While it makes sense, it still angers me!!!! Oh, how I wish I could get an XBOX! :)

Here another picture from last night's adventure. (Keep in mind that the entire line can not be seen because the line wrapped around the eisle.)

Leaving for Walmart Soon

Pray for me...I'm leaving for Walmart in a few minutes to (hopefully) get Anthony an XBOX 360. Oh, I hope we get one....I will be soooo sleepy in the morning, but I *guess* it's worth it.

:(

Pray for me... :) :) :)

Camping...at Walmart!

Yep! That's what I'm doing tonight.... My husband wants an XBOX 360 Game System for Christmas. They go on sale at Walmart tonight at midnight. My mother-in-law and I will be "camping out" in the Layaway Dept tonight. (That's where they are selling the games. I guess so that it won't crowd the electronics dept.) We plan to arrive at the store about 9 or so. Hopefully, this will give us a better shot at getting one. There are only 30 game systems available at each store.

I don't know why they don't have more game systems available, but every time that a new system comes out, they only send 30 or so to each store. I guess they find this amusing... :( What does that mean for the moms and dads that want to get them for their kids...OH, and the wives that are getting them for their husbands? It means that we have to do anything to get them....My mother-in-law reminds me of the days of fighting in the eisles over Cabbage Patch Dolls...Heaven help us if that happens tonight. I am normally not a fighter, but I'll have the "throw down" with someone if they try to cut in line.

I intend to take my book and a folding chair with me to Wally World. If we don't get one tonight, then it's off to Target and Circuit City tomorrow before 8 AM to stand in line once again.

ARGHHH the agony….to stand in line for friggin three hours to pay several hundred dollars for something that will provide him with another reason to ignore me.…or at least provide him with something that he finds more fun and interesting.

I am beginning to wonder about my sanity at this point. As if he doesn't occupy the living room tv enough as it is....He already plays Madden on the PS2 every chance he gets. When he isn't playing football on tv, then he is watching football on tv....whether it is a game that is on or he is watching SportsCenter for the millionth time (to watch the highlights from the game he just watched). I just know that having the XBOX 360 in the house will provide the opportunity for my husband to leave a permanent imprint on the couch for at least a couple weeks.

He also informed his mother and I that he will get his XBOX early if we get him one....Oh, did I tell you that he always gets his gifts early? That is something that his mom started many years ago, and somehow, I've continued. :(

I bought him XBOX Live for his XBOX a couple years ago and he stayed up several nights playing it. When I say that he stayed up all night, on those nights, he didn't go to bed until it was almost time for me to get up and go to work! It's a good thing that he has part of this week off and can play it all weekend, too. Otherwise, he might be inclined to use his vacation time to stay home and play the game. It's sad, but true...

I love my husband and he loves me. I think he'd find me more interesting if I came with games and controllers and that he could turn me off and on whenever he liked. Unfortunately, for him, that model wasn't available when he married me. I don't come with those features.... :( Of course, when I married him, the Cooking, Cleaning, ATM model wasn't available, either. Instead, I got the account auditor model instead. HAHA

Does anyone out there have something that you JUST HAVE TO GET someone for Christmas??? What is it? It better not be an XBOX b/c that might reduce my chances of getting one. :(

Somebody pray for me tonight...Pray that I don't get into a fight with someone else in line...Pray that I get one of this expensive toys for my 25-year old husband (so that I can be his "hero" for a few days)...and Pray that I don't fall asleep at work tomorrow...Most of all, pray that this doesn't drive me insane. :)

Oh, yeah, and happy holidays! (Can you sense the sarcasm...??? 'Cause I'm layin' it on pretty thick!!!) I feel like exploding into Clark Griswold's rant from National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation. And...it's not even Thanksgiving!

(If you want to hear the rant that I am talking about, click here. Then, click on the file name, "Nuthouse".)

We whimped out. :(

Anthony and I were planning on going to the midnight premiere of Harry Potter last night. By 9:00 PM, we had talked ourselves out of it. With the temperature outside continuing to drop and the thought of only getting a couple hours of sleep, we decided against it. I kept asking Anthony if he wanted to go, because I didn't want to let him down, but he kept saying the same things to me..."It's cold..." or "The showing is too late." So, maybe we'll watch Harry Potter sometime soon.

Heather is definitely cooler than I am. She went with her kids last night.

As for tonight, we are going to dinner with my friend and my brother and then maybe to the movies.

I hope you all have a great day.

Jen :)

It's Thursday...

Okay, so while I thought that today would be pretty uneventful, it proved wrong.

First, I got up, watched GMA, and was getting ready. Today was one of those days where everything looked like crap when I put it on. I tried on about 15 outfits before I decided to wear my brand new suit (which I got for $50 at TJMaxx this weekend YEAH!!!). I didn't want to wear it yet. I wanted to save it for a day when I would be out of the office or at an important meeting. :( But, with "nothing else to wear", I decided to give into temptation and wear it. It is a "classy" gray and black tweed suit. It is a wardrobe set - jacket, pants, and skirt. Okay, enough about the suit...(I just love a good deal!)

So, off to work I went. I mailed out a very important package via USPS express mail yesterday to arrive in DC at an office "on/near the hill" today BEFORE NOON. I received a call from the DC office today at 2:30 that the package had not arrived. ARGHHHH!!! I can't believe that the package didn't get there! It had to be there! It should have been there before noon. So, I called the PO that it was routed through. They didn't know what happened to the package either. The postmaster told me that he would call me ASAP to let me know what he found out about the package and in the meantime, he would have another carrier pick up the package from the other carrier and it would be delivered immediately. Okay, so I called the DC office back. I told them it should be delivered by 3 pm. I didn't hear back, so I assume that it was delivered. The USPS site has not been updated yet, so I have no way of knowing...until, that is, when USPS updates the computer system. :(

Side note...I read Jessica Cutler's book, "The Washingtonienne" this weekend. It is a novel loosely based on Jessica's involvement in a sex scandal on Capital Hill. I'm sure you've heard about it...since it involved a blog and all. (Check out her archive by clicking here. Check out her current blog by clicking here.) I don't normally read this stuff, but it definitely was interesting. Especially since I finished the book in less than two days (not reading constantly, of course.) But, I couldn't put it down!!! So, while I was talking to the DC contacts yesterday and today, I thought, "I wonder who the 'Jessica' is in their office." I know that is awful!!! I guess it's because I just read the book, but my goodness, I can't believe I thought that while I was on the phone. I'm just glad that I didn't have a Freudian slip and say something...I would have been SO FIRED!!!!

I had a big message posted here, but when I went it to fix a typo, I deleted a big chunk of the message instead!!! ARGHH! I was writing with fury from a stupid thing today and I guess it was meant to be that I deleted it. :(

I'm going to the premiere tonight, so I'll post how it goes. :)

Just got an update...the package was indeed delivered at 3:30. YIPPEEEE

What's Going On...

I was trying to come up something to write this evening...not much came to mind. So, I thought that I would just write what I'll be doing over the next few days. (Not that my life is that amazing or interesting, but I can't think of anything else.. :( )

So, tonight, I'll be doing the usual Wednesday ritual...Watching "Lost", then the news, and then bed.

Tomorrow, during lunch, I'll be meeting my friend, Michael, for lunch at our favorite restaurant. I haven't seen her in months and I am really looking forward to seeing her!!!!

Then, tomorrow night, my husband and I will going to the premiere party in Charleston for Harry Potter. We have never seen an HP movie in the theaters. We normally just wait for them to come on HBO. However, we won free tickets from a radio station. Anthony is really excited about it. I am interested in going, but I just hope I can stay up that late! (The showing is at midnight.) We are usually in bed and asleep by 10:30. HA HA

Friday, I will see Michael again after her flight comes in from DC. The office staff is all planning to go to lunch with her to catch up....

Friday evening, I will pick up my friend and coworker, Annette, at the airport. She has been in Atlanta all week for a training. UHHH After leaving the airport, she and I will join my brother and husband for dinner at Diehl's (an awesome local family owned restaurant). After dinner, we might go to a movie. Who knows???

Saturday, we've got the big Michigan/Ohio State football game. It's always a party at our friend's house. He's a huge Michigan Fan and so is my husband. So, Anthony is excited about this. Goodness, I hope that Michigan wins. This is a VERY IMPORTANT game for my husband and all of the other Michigan fans....Ohio State and Michigan are HUGE rivals....the winner gets bragging rights for the year....And if OSU wins, then I'll have to deal with a very upset husband. HA HA

I guess that is all I have planned for the next few days. Enough to keep me busy, definitely.

So, if you weren't bored before reading this, you are now. HAHA

What do you have planned for the next few days????

"Complaints and Grievances"

I am a big fan of George Carlin. I was watching an HBO special the other night and he always talks about things that "bother him". Now, his new cd, "Complaints and Grievances" highlights the "bothersome" topics.

So, in similar interest, I thought I would post a few things that bother me. Granted, some of these are a little shallow and some are a little political, but I thought that I would warn you ahead of time. Don't expect these comments to be life-changing or stimulating.

But just for fun...I'd like to share my frustrations, complaints and grievances.

Mullets... I don't like mullets on men or women...Sorry....I never liked it when they were in style (if there ever was a time) and I definitely don't like it now. (I think it is especially "interesting" when a man has a mullet and he is balding on top and grows the back out to compensate....)

"Mom Jeans" - Since when did it become a rule for women to wear their jeans right below the bra? Oh, and to accent it with a belt really sets the look off! NO MORE MOM JEANS for the love of all that's holy!

I hate double knobbed faucets because getting the right temperature and pressure is like balancing an equation (suggested by my friend, Annette, and I totally agree! - I hate the double faucets in public bathrooms....you can never adjust the water pressure accurately and you end up with water everywhere.)

People who pull out in front of you on the road and then turn off immediately after!!!

Speaking of driving....I hate people that go 20 mph below the speed limit and then begin to tap their brakes a million times to "signal to you that you are too close". Ok...so I have a tailgating problem, but FTLOG, would you please drive the speed limit (or something close to it????) ESPECIALLY IN THE PASSING LANE.

Speaking of the passing lane...DON'T drive in the passing lane (going slow, usually) because you are making a turn a few miles ahead.....arghhh (This happens to me going from St. Albans to South Chas. all of the time!)

How Blockbuster Movie Rental holds back a copy or two of their "guaranteed to be there" rentals so that you can't get the rental for free if they didn't have a copy available. ARGGH (okay...I'm cheap....I'm trying to get a free rental...I admit it!)

The people at the KIOSKS at the mall that step out into your walking path to say, "Excuse me, Miss. I have a wonderful product that you need to try." I am marketing professional and I understand that they are trying to make a sale. However, trying to scare me or nearly making me trip over you in my path just to sell me some new gadget or hand cream, is not the way to do it. When I am a woman on a mission. Don't get in my way. HA HA

How public bathrooms usually need a HAZMAT crew to clean them. People say that men's bathrooms are dirty...I've never seen one, but it would take a lot to be more gross than some women's bathrooms that I've seen. Do people not have any common sense or manners???? Also, why is it so hard to keep paper products and soap in the bathrooms?

It's one thing to talk on a cell phone in a store or restaurant (I can over look that), but it is another thing to be screaming so that your friend on the other end can hear you because you or they are having signal problems. Usually the louder the voice, the more embarrassing the comments. When is screaming through the phone to your friend talking about how you are going to kick someone's *** or how you spent your night last night a good idea???? Maybe when you don't have any class???

I am all about getting good service at a restaurant or at a store, and I hate getting poor service. However, I HATE when people show themselves in a restaurant by cussing the server or telling him/her that she is worthless, etc. Once again, a lack of class.

When businesses don't take check/debit/credit cards. I know that it can be an extra expense for businesses, but come on!!! Sorry, if you want my business, you have to take plastic...I NEVER carry cash. (I'm lucky to have enough change to put in the parking meter.)

The new fad of "short pants". I loved cropped pants and capris in the summer/spring. BUT...what is the new fad of the pants that come just below the knee? They are everywhere!!! They look cute on some, but I just can't bring myself to wear one. (Just like the "poncho" fad of the past few seasons. There was ONE time that I considered purchasing a "poncho"....and a good friend talked me out of it. She said, "Friends don't let friends wear (or buy) ponchos." HAHA

Anyone who is homophobic.... Hey, I said that there would be some topics that would be "political". I don't want to elaborate because this post will turn into a "novel". I could get fired up and go on all day about this. Man, it burns me up!!!!

Something that used to tick me off growing up (and still does on occasion) is when a Presidential Address is shown in place of one of my favorite shows. I can't help it that I would learn more and it would be more interesting to watch Will and Grace than the President?? (That was a low blow...I do watch the Presidential Addresses just to keep up on what it being said, but it doesn't mean that I like it.)

I'm sure that there are many more... and I will continue to post them. I can't think of anymore right now, though. So, I'll turn it over to you. If you have any complaints, grievances, or frustrations that you would like to share, please feel free to post in the comments. :)

A new experience...

I had the pleasure of being in a room of wonderful women today. Quite frequently, I am blessed by the presence of such wonderful women. Today was especially great! A coworker and I went to a Women's Club meeting today. We were welcomed with open arms. The room was filled with memories, years of experience, and extensive wisdom...We were so pleased to be a part of it, if it was just for a day. :)

The wonderful reception hall was decorated in white and gold and the air was full of country kitchen aromas. There was definitely a feast being prepared.

After all of the "thank you for coming" and "so nice to meet you" comments we heard, the gathering was about to begin. Before going through the line to partake of the wonderful food that had been prepared, one of the ladies came before the group to do an inspirational message. She read a poem from a writer whose name I've heard, but can't recall right now....the message was about how this person lived to provide for their community... that while he might not be everything to everyone, he will be someone to somebody... that he will be "used up when I die" and do all he can for his community. I had never heard it in so few words or so simply, but it really hit home with me. I work for a nonprofit, volunteer for nonprofits..it's the work that I live for.

After the wonderful message, the lady also gave blessings for the day and the food. Then, she lead us in the Pledge of Allegiance and one verse of "God Bless America". It had been a long time since I had said the Pledge. It took me back to my school days. Whether because of age or lack of understanding, the Pledge became "routine" and was sometimes taken for granted. Today (maybe because of the war...) I got teary-eyed when reciting the Pledge. I glanced around the room while singing "God Bless America" and was reminded of what our soldiers sacrifice for us, then and now. I also saw the women in the room who have had a part in improving opportunities for women...and improving their community.

I was blessed to be around such outstanding women today. I commend them for their work, talents, and dedication.

A special thank you to the Women's Club of Charleston for inviting me to be part of a special day...a day that I will remember for a long time.

Getting back to my reading...

It amazes me how influence from other people can remind you of things that you are missing out on...things that I once enjoyed. I was an avid reader when I was a child. As I posted in an earlier comment, I am back into reading again. The passion of two friends has rubbed off on me. A few months ago, Charlie, my friend at the library, gave me some suggestions about a few books. Then, when a new coworker and I were discussing literature at lunch one day, I was reminded of all of the "classics" that I had always wanted to read, and never read. She graduated from a prominent liberal arts college with a degree in English and Religion. She is so smart (and such a great writer), she has inspired me to read those books I never read. There are a few that I have read and she has not, so we have decided to start our own "book club" and read books that one of us has read (and fall in love with it all over again) so that the other can fall in love with it for the first time. She suggested to me, Emma, by Jane Austen. I suggested to her Lord of the Flies by William Golding. There are a few that both of us have read, but since it has been so long, we want to get reaquainted with the stories.

She has reminded me how great reading and how powerful and wonderful words can be. We watched a little bit of "Shakespeare in Love" last night. That is definitely a movie that I will have to watch in it's entirety.

So we will have "book club" meetings and also get together to watch a variety of movies. Whether it be a thought-provoking film such as "The Color Purple" or a comedy such as "Old School". There will be evenings of literary discussion and evenings of pure laughter...or complete tears. (We have "Steel Magnolias" and "Philadelphia" on the list as well.)

It is just nice to have friends from all different interests and passions. It definitely adds spice (and knowledge) to my life.

So, thanks to all of my friends who all bring different things to our friendship. Without the wonderful relationships that we have, I wouldn't know what to do. My friends all have passion, knowlege, expertise, and interest in a variety of topics. Thank you for bringing spice to my life!

79 years...

My grandmother turned 79 years old yesterday and they held a surprise birthday party for her at church. Many members of the family were there, along with other people that she has cared for, in one way or another.

Mamaw has been a grandmother to me and many other kids from the area. She was always ready with a spoonful of Dimeatapp or Vicks 44 when she heard a sniffle or cough...whether it was her kid or not...:)

She always knew what always made me feel better...a cup of chicken noodle soup... a homemade roll or cookie...or just a hug.

After leaving her party yesterday evening, I started thinking...She has done so much for people around her. Have I shown the compassion to others that she has? I don't know, but I will try to be and try to make her proud. In 79 years, I could not even name (or count) the number of people that she has helped. Just as our minister said yesterday while blessing the food, he was giving thanks for my grandmother and all that she has done for so many.

Our church has a free luncheon every Wednesday. My grandmother is always in the kitchen with the other ladies from the church cookin' up something good for the guests. She's always in the kitchen...period! Always cookin' up something tasty!

And now as I am writing this about her...I am beginning to understand...

It is strange how simple things can make you realize complex concepts! My grandmother didn't go to college...didn't finish high school. She helped run her family's business...She raised a group of great kids (and some good grandkids :))...She provides warm meals to many people...has reached out to many in a variety of ways. Sometimes I want to be "somebody" and fantasize about being famous or "well-known". I have been reminded of what is important. It's not that you are "somebody" to the masses, it's that you are a "friend" to a few. My grandmother is someone and a friend...she's someone to ME and all of the other lives that she has touched.

My mamaw is still teaching me things all the time. I just hope she knows how much I've learned from her and how grateful I am to have her in my life.

I just pray that I will have her in my life for a while longer....And I know that it is unreasonable, but I hope she's around for another 79 years. :)

It's been crazy 'round here!

I know, I know...I have posted anything in so long. So, to get you up to speed, I'll fill you in.

First of all, work has been crazy...getting ready for a huge event!!! Also, my husband has been working really long hours and I feel that I haven't seen him much lately.

I have also been really busy with meetings and events for the March of Dimes. I serve on the WV Chapter Board of Directors, a few planning committees, and the Chair of the Communications Committee. So, with it being special event season as well as getting ready for Prematurity Awareness Month (which starts tomorrow, Nov. 1), we have definitely been busy. For more info on the March of Dimes, visit the website at www.marchofdimes.com. One out of every eight babies born in the US are born prematurely and one out of every seven babies in WV are born prematurely. Prematurity is the leading cause of death in babies. To find out more or how you can help, visit the website provided above.

Also, I have started selling Mary Kay Cosmetics. I love it! I have been selling since the end of July and it is helping me to stay busy. :) (If you would like to book a party or to place an order, email me. Also, you can order online, email me for the website address.)

So, now that I've filled you in with what has been going on....what's been going on with you? I know that everyone seems to be very busy right now....it's always a busy time of the year. I just can't imagine how busy it will be during the holidays....I have not even thought about the holiday gift giving yet....Have you?

I hope you are all doing well...I'd love to hear you share your "current events".

Jen :)

Alchemy and Esoterism, Islam and Popularity: a joint post written by Charlie Tee and Jen

(To read Charlie's post on this topic, click here.)

Okay....Friday was "one of those days"....One of those days where fire comes shooting out my ears. And as a regular visitor atop the soap box, happens quite frequently. I received a forward in my email inbox about how I should "boycott the upcoming release of the United States Postal Service stamp" which commemorates a Muslim holiday. To read the entire email message, click here. After reading this "harmless" email, I realized that not only was this message wrong in content, it was also COMPLETELY intolerant and ignorant. To read the press release with the correct message, click here. What I find a little amuzing is that the press release for the release of the stamp was back in 2001. I guess this group hoping that we will boycott this is a little late in the game....

So, here is my response to this message....

If we judge a whole entire community on the actions of one person or a small segment of that community, such as this email message does, then we have many more problems to face than I thought. (I tend to be positive and 'nieve' in thinking that we are becoming more tolerant and compassionate.) Was the entire Christian Community judged after the Timothy McVeigh bombing or after WACO? Is the Christian community seen as having the same beliefs as the extreme right (Jerry Falwell, Pat Robertson, etc.)? I've not seen it.... Do we judge every police officer in the United States for the brutal acts of a few corrupt officers? Once again, I haven't seen it. So, why then, is it "patriotic" and "acceptable" to judge a peaceful religious community for the actions of a few radicals?

I honestly can't understand. So, let me remind people of something that I learned when I was a child.....Something that I learned in Sunday School many years ago....I learned that respect and compassion is very important and is a core value of my faith and beliefs. Something else I learned as a child is that one rotten apple can spoil the bunch. It may be a "old saying", but it still shows itself everyday.

When Hurricane Katrina hit the Gulf Coast, people were talking about the looters, the gang members, the "community of sin", and many other "generalist" comments. Why are we always looking to the negative? What would you do in that situation? Why can't we remember all of the people who needed help and couldn't get it? Thankfully, through all the volunteerism and donations that have been provided, we finally show compassion...something that we should have been doing all along.

So, as a step off my soap box once again, I encourage everyone to learn about things outside their own community. I am thankful to have friends and resources that provide me with a multitude of learning opportunites...and I am grateful. I feel that it is important to understand the culture and lives of my friends and neighbors.

So, when it comes to judging a whole community, stop and think before you speak or act...and most of all....EDUCATE YOURSELF!!!

(Once again, to read Charlie's post on this topic, click here.)

We've made it two years!!!

My husband and I celebrated our two year anniversary at the end of August. It's hard to believe that we have only been married for two years. It seems that we've been together much longer because I can barely remember what it was like before we were together (not that I want to remember...)

He got me a beautiful clock for our anniversary....it was engraved with the words, All I ever wanted in life, I've found in loving you.... It is also engraved with our names and anniversary date. I cried when he gave it to me. I cried because I feel the same way about him.

His love for me hits me like a ton of bricks sometimes. As we go throughout daily routines, sometimes we take advantage of what we have. But when we get out of the routine and realize what we have, it is overwhelming for me. Men don't always understand women or their emotions and my husband is no exception. There are times when we are together and suddenly, all at once, I realize how much we love each other and how in love we still are. Then, I start to cry..... It doesn't make sense, but it's the only way my mind and body can express it.

I just can't imagine spending one day without him. He's out of town this weekend and I will be sleeping on the couch. I just can't imagine sleeping in the empty bed. (Even though Wrigley would find a way to still push me to the edge and nearly knock me out of bed! haha) I am so used to having him beside me...I just can't do it. Many days since we are so busy, we don't get to spend much time together. But I always know that he will be with me when I go to sleep.

There are times when I want to kick him in the head...as I am sure he'd like to do the same to me on occasion, but when the day is done, we know that we have each other.

I know that it sounds sappy and cliche', but I just don't know what I would do without him. He's solid and so strong, but has a heart of gold. He shows such compassion and he has a wonderful spirit. Yes, he's stubborn and so am I, but we've been able to compromise...

It's so hard to express how much I love him, so I only hope that he knows that when I say, "I love you" that he realizes what I mean.

The kids are growing up...

I just spent the evening with my family and, as always, I had a great time. Now that I have a place of my own and my own family, I only get to see my family a few times a month. But lately, especially, I have been reminded of how much they mean to me. I don't know where I would be without my family....ALL of my family. I know that I have told you so much about my grandmothers, my aunt, and some other family members. I don't think that I have written much about my brothers. So, I'd like to introduce you to them. This is also a tribute to my family and what they have done for me. (You will read about my family over the next few posts....)

My brothers are all grown up. I guess it is difficult because it also makes me realize my age. But before I can explain the present, I'll need to take you back...... Back to the early 90's....

My dad met my stepmom a while after he and my mother got divorced. In many of these posts, I will refer to my stepmom as "mom" and my biological mom as "mom"...I know that is very confusing, but in this post, the mom that I mention is my stepmom.

Anyway... The first time that I met my stepmom and her three sons was one day when dad had visitation with me. Normally, on a day with dad, we went to the park, to family friends' houses, or to the movies. On this day, it was different. It was the day that I would meet my mom and my brothers. Although, I didn't know it at the time. After we got half way to my dad's girlfriend's house, he told me where we were going and that I would meet his girlfriend and her three sons. I was nervous and a little confused. As most kids are going through a divorce, I couldn't quite comprehend my dad having a girlfriend. Although, on top of the anxiety of "Will they like me??? Will I like them?", I was excited! I was going to have other kids to play with for the day! I was an only child and loved having other kids to play with. So, when I got there, I had a blast playing video games with the boys. The youngest was three years old, the middle one was six (I think), and the oldest was my age (12)...we were only five weeks apart.

Here's a story about my youngest brother....and it's also a story from the first day we met....

"BOO", the youngest, scraped his toe on the heating vent and was in desperate need for a band-aid. (I always told mom that we should have bought stock in Band-aids. I think that my mom kept Kroger's and Johnson & Johnson in business, at least during the 90's. I bet you found out why we called him "BOO" by now??) Mom was out of bandaids that day and I told "BOO" that I would take him over to his grandmother's across the street to get a bandaid. Through his tears and sniffling, he agreed. I was carrying him down the front steps when I missed the last step and fell. Not only did I fall, but I dropped Boo on the sidewalk...on his HEAD!!!! He dusted himself off and asked me if I was okay. Then, began laughing uncontrollably. I was sprawled out on the sidewalk with my ankle turned in an unnatural way. I was crying b/c I had sprained my ankle. Dad came running and was hysterical. Dad had not told my grandmother when he picked me up for visitation that he was taking me to his girlfriend's house and he was concerned that he would not know how to explain how I twisted my ankle. My grandmother is the biggest worry-wort that I have ever met. She would have died...or killed my dad, I'm not sure which. So, BOO forgot all about his toe and went back inside. Dad picked me up and carried me inside. Mom put ice on it and Dad hoped for the best. Within a little while, I was better and was up and about again. Thankfully, we didn't have to feel the wrath of my concerned grandmother. (HA HA)

So, that is the story of the first time that I met my family. One day, after many weekend visits and even after my grandmother met my dad's girlfriend and the boys, my mom and dad told me the great news. I still remember sitting in the car and mom and dad telling me that they are going to get married. I remember asking if I could be there. They told me that they were going to Virginia alone for the weekend. I was still SO excited. They got married two days before my birthday. Getting another mom and three brothers was the best birthday present I have ever received. There were times when I wish that I could have my dad all to myself, but that was when I was young and foolish. I cherish every minute that I get to spend with my mom, dad, and brothers. And now, I realize that my mom has made my dad a better man, husband, and father.

The kids are growing up. Boo is now 17, the middle one is 20, and the oldest is 25. I am the oldest by five weeks. My mom always enjoys explaining our age difference when people ask. She said that it was a really long labor.

She's not kidding. Raising me was definitely work. I was obnoxious and selfish. I was used to having everything my way...I was the only child and only grandchild for a long time. I had to learn the hard way that everything isn't all about me.

I know that there has been MANY times that my mom and dad just wanted to wash their hands of me and give up...but they didn't. They were there when no one else wanted to be. Even at my worst, they still loved me. They may have not liked the way I acted sometimes, but the loved me unconditionally. Two of the greatest memories I have is meeting my mom and brothers and my dad walking me down the eisle at my wedding.
To read more about my family, click here for my next post....

To my Mom and Dad.....

My stepmother has been a very large influence in my life. She is one of the many wonderful women in my life. TALK ABOUT STRENGTH! One of my wishes/greatest desires is to be as strong as she is. She has raised three children...okay make that three and a half (she had me through the tough teen years)...And for a part of her motherhood, she was a single mom. She has always made sure that our basic needs were met and MORE!!! She never let me give up...and she never gave up on me! I thought she was tough on me many times, but now that I am older, I understand that it was her way of making me learn and be independent. She made me realize that I COULD stand on my own two feet....I COULD get a college degree AND a good job...and that I COULD make it on my own! I did it all through her love, support, guidance, and honesty. She has done so much for me....She was my study buddy in college, my teacher, my friend, my mentor, and most of all, an ear and a shoulder. I will never be able to thank her for all the things that she did. She let me live, but prevented me from bringing harm to myself, has let me learn and still act stupid on occasion, and I don't know how I'll ever thank or repay her.

To my dad.... Thank you for the advice, love, and great conversations. You've been so good to me and I will always be your little girl. Thank you for being honest and loving. Because of you, fried bologna and chocolate milk is a meal that I enjoy and a time with you that I will never forget. As I get older, I realize why I loved watching Mighty Mouse with you. I know that I always thought that the theme song was about you. I always knew that you'd be there when I needed you....("....Here I come to save the day!")

I'm grown up. I'm a married woman. But you know what??? Sometimes, I realize that I'm just a young insecure girl (that akward kid in school) stuck in a woman's body....still lost and trying to find my way. The only thing that helps is that I know that I have so many people in my life that love me and will help me find my way.

I am truly blessed to have such wonderful family and friends in my life. I just hope that they know how much they mean to me. Every person I meet shapes my life and without the relationships that I have made over the years, I am nothing.

EEEKKKK!!!! I've become a coffee drinker!

I have to admit, I've never really been a coffee drinker. The only times I can recall really enjoying coffee is when I was a kid. I would sneak a sip of my grandmother's cold coffee (which was mostly cream) while she was cleaning house.

I have always been a hot tea drinker. Dark English Breakfast tea with Sweet-n-Low and a little evaporated milk. There's nothing better than that with a piece of my Aunt's homemade shortbread.

One day....many weeks ago...while at a meeting with a friend/colleague/mentor and all around great guy, I was introduced into the world of coffee. That was all it took. I kept saying to him, "I don't like coffee." He suggested Chai Tea as an alternative. I replied that I had tried it and didn't care for it.) So, he suggested the Milky Way Blast at Taylor Books. When the Taylor Book staff member described it, I got a mental image of a milkshake with a hint of coffee. (I know, how dumb??) I wasn't disappointed, though. It is a frozen delight with milk, espresso, and caramel and chocolate syrups. As the great Rachel Ray says, "YUMM-O!!!!" That day, I was hooked!

I work in St. Albans, but days that I am anywhere near downtown, I give the City of Charleston some meter money and visit Taylor Books for a Milky Way Blast. Since the first day of being a coffee drinker, I have tried a few at Starbucks and one at Capitol Roasters. (The German Chocolate one is great at Roasters!)

One of the drinks that I tried at Starbucks was not great. It was a frozen drink (like Taylor's Blast) but it had chocolate syrup and mint chips. It was not that great and for the price, it REALLY wasn't that great. I'll stick to my Taylor drink, thank you!

Then, this morning....I went to the United Way Day of Caring event in Charleston and I stopped at Starbucks at the mall (only because I was already parked at the Civic Center...otherwise, I would have went to Taylor!) So, anyways...I got a Caramel Macchiato. I wanted something warm for a change. OKAY YUM again! Actually something from Starbucks that is worth "wow-ing" over. My friend got a Pumpkin iced thing and it was good too.

So, while Starbucks has a few things worth trying, I'll stick to the local Taylor Books. The people are great and the coffee is great too!

So, a special thanks to the wonderful (and local) Taylor Books who has some great stuff! (and my friend who suggested giving coffee another try!)

World Music Awards...

I received a phone call last night from a good friend instructing me to turn the tv to the World Music Awards. I had been watching the season premiere of HOUSE and then the news. I didn't realize that the WMA's were on, but I flipped off the news to the WMA's, as instructed. (After all, I tend to be an "award show" junkie.)

As I turned it to the channel, I realized why my friend had called me. Destiny's Child was being serenaded by Babyface and Usher. Men who only need to be refered to by first name. :)

Extreme talent was present as well as dashing good looks. :)

I was pleased with what I saw of the performance (which was only the last 45 seconds, unfortunately). However, I was a little surprised after the performance was over.

They honored Destiny's Child with a WMA as "Best Female Group of All Time". I LOVE Destiny's Child, don't get me wrong, but best female group of ALL TIME???? What about Diana Ross and the Supremes...What about the other wonderful girl groups of the past????? Influence from the outstanding girls groups of the past have surely inspired these women in their music as I am sure that DC will inspire groups of the future. I don't doubt that they are one of the best groups of all time, but to honor them as "Best Female Group of All Time" is a little much. Maybe they have had more album sales than groups from the past, I'm not sure. I was happy for them (especially since they are continuing their solo careers and the DC group is no longer). I just thought that maybe there might have been a few more candidates that they should have considered.

I am a firm believer that the music of today is because of yesterday's music.

I don't believe that we would have the talented John Mayer if other wonderful guitarists and musical poets like James Taylor and Eric Clapton had not gone before him. Britney and other "pop divas" would not be here without Madonna and other female pop artists paving the way.

So, I guess my final comment is that while I think that Destiny's Child deserves an award for being an AWESOME female group, I just don't know if they deserve being titled "the best of all time." Just as if Beyonce' was up for an outstanding female artist award, I would be pleased, but if they refered to her as "best of all time", I'm sure many people would be scratching their head wondering why Aretha, Diana, Patti and many others weren't considered.

Music takes me places....

As I have said before, I am a huge fan of music. I have an eclectic collection, from rap to classical and everything in between.

Today, I stopped by the library and picked up a few CDs. I picked up a 50's collection CD. I skimmed through the track list and decided to get it. I have to admit, I didn't look closely at the track list because I have ALWAYS loved 50's music, so it didn't really matter what songs were on the CD.

I was ESPECIALLY pleased when I popped the CD into my car stereo and heard "Come Go with Me" by the Dell-Vikings. (I had to look at the CD case to give you the artist because I was not familiar the group.) However, I am VERY familiar with the song. This song takes me back to the young age of 9, when I took dance lessons. I took ballet, jazz, and modern dance from an instructor in Oak Hill. We did "Come Go With Me" and "Wooly Booley" (spelling?) for two of our "pop/oldies" numbers in our recital. I don't recall the other numbers we did, but every time that I hear "Come Go With Me", it takes me back immediately. (I can still remember part of the routine...sad, I know!)

As I drove home listening to the song, I realized that I was smiling ear to ear...uncontrollably. It was a feeling that I doubt could have been dampered by any force. I was remembering fond memories of my childhood. How lucky I was....How lucky I still am!

So, as I continued to think good thoughts on the way home, I realized that in the scheme of things...in the events throughout our lives, it's the little things that matter. It's the wonderful songs that remind you of childhood play time and childhood dreams. It's the homemade ice cream on a summer day...or warm soup on a winter day. It's the friend who will pray with you and hold your hand during a tough time. It's the thoughfulness of a gift. (Not neccessarily the gift itself, but its meaning or reason.) It's the little things that matter.

As you know, I am not a mother (unless you count my little one, Wrigley), but as advice to parents (and advice that I will use myself when I become a parent)....it's the LITTLE THINGS.

It's the times that you teach your child to ride a bike....They keep falling down (or wrecking, in my case) and you try and try again. And then celebrate with them when they are able to ride on their own.

It's the fried bologna sandwiches and chocolate milk on a Saturday morning....A perfect breakfast for watching cartoons with dad.

You get the point. I hear so often to not sweat the small stuff....I do, however. To me, the "small stuff" IS the "big stuff". The small stuff is what we are made of. It's the stories of our lives - the memories - that we carry with us.

Maybe since I am a "detail-oriented" person, this is important to me. But I am sure that we all have a place in our heart for the little things.

It's nice to tap into those wonderful memories. Every time that I think about the small puzzle pieces that have shaped my life, I smile. So, if you think about the happy little things that you've had in your life, I guarantee that you'll have a grin from ear to ear, just as I do now.

May God bless you with the small things and may you praise him for those blessings.

What a weekend!!!

Okay, so long story short...I had an INTERESTING weekend.

First, I went to a MLB game with my husband and the family of a woman that he works with. It was fun. Of course, since my husband is a HUGE Cubs fan, we watched the Cubs play the Pirates. There was a "interesting" part of the trip. We got lost in Pittsburgh. Actually, it was in between Greentree and Pittsburgh. First, we got a little lost when we were at Station Square (I think that is what it is called.), then we tried to find something to eat and drove around for over an hour. We ended up going back to the hotel, still hungry....We finally ended up eating at Taco Bell before midnight. We went to the game and had a blast (I'll post the pictures tomorrow.) It was my first MLB game and that's all it took to get me hooked. It's MUCH better in person than on TV.


Before the game started, Anthony's mom called us and said that there had been a contractor out cutting down a neighbor's tree since dawn that morning. Of course, our little one was barking all day at the contractors outside. Later in the day, we got another call from Anthony's mom. This time, the contractor wanted to talk to him. He got on the phone and told Anthony that they had torn down a brick flower pot/landscaping box near our parking spots. When we got home, we realized that they had demolished the brick construction, got saw dust all over our other car (the one that is BRAND NEW!), even though they asked Anthony's mom moved it 5 times upon their request. Our next door neighbor was out of town, but he left his truck here. They did more than just cover his truck with sawdust. His truck is scratched. I'm sure he won't be happy about that.

Anthony called the contractor on Saturday night when we got home. They came yesterday to clean up all the dirt and the bricks from their demolition. They are supposed to come this week to rebuild it for us.

Also, we found out on Saturday night from another neighbor that she tried to get the information from the contractor (so that we could contact them if any other problems arose), and it took five requests to get the information from the contractors. They didn't give her a business card, but just their name and phone #. No company name was on the work truck, nor was their any other form of ID, just the information that the man gave our neighbor.

I'm not too worried since they have already cleaned up our yard and will (hopefully) be back soon to rebuild it. However, I am a little upset b/c the contractors or neighbors failed to inform us about this before they had it done. Since it blocked our street for nearly 8 hours and no vehicles could get in or out, it posed a problem. My father-in-law is chronically ill and could need emergency medical attention at any given time. There is an elderly gentleman on our street as well.

Also, if my in-laws hadn't been here, heaven only knows what would have happened to our yard or our new car since we were out of town. The residents on our street could have moved our vehicles down the street (off the hill) if we would have known prior to the work being done. I feel that we should have been notified (by someone) before Saturday.

The lesson learned....I will notify my neighbors of any work that is being done at my home that would affect them in any way. I would expect my neighbors to do the same.

CNN was prepared...the FEDs were NOT!

As I (along with the rest of the world) continue to watch coverage of Hurricane Katrina, I have come to a concerning realization. The media (CNN, ABC, MSNBC, etc.) were more prepared than our government in this terrible disaster. It saddens me that our tv crews can get in, but food and supplies can not. There was no plan for security in case of a disaster like this. We have really let the people down. I commend the media for covering the events and bringing us the stories of the victims. Maybe we should look to them, since they were the only ones prepared, to help us prepare in case of another natural disaster.

The lack of preparation and security plans has caused the area to become lawless and dangerous for the victims as well as the relief workers.

I am not blaming one person...I am not blaming our President or any other Federal Official. I just think that the government (as a whole) failed the communities who were affected by this tragedy.

Some friends of mine always say, "Don't complain without having a suggested solution." So, I don't know much about disaster preparedness, but I will say this....The government and the citizens need to do what they can to help with the relief efforts now and help (do their best) to prepare for the future. There should be security plans in place to protect the relief workers and citizens.

I know that is not much of a solution or plan, but it's all I have. I just feel awful that we let our fellow Americans down.

A final thought regarding this tragedy....."I pray for the families affected by this tragedy and I pray (and hope) that it never happens to a family again."

She's leaving...

My friend, Michael, left the office today...for the last time. I told her "See you Monday" because I couldn't handle dealing with her not being in the office everyday.

We are going to keep in touch and have already made plans to get together over Labor Day weekend. I know that we will continue to be friends...I know that we will keep in touch.

I can't help but be sad even though the new job is an awesome opportunity for her. I wish her the best and I know that she will be successful, but I am going to miss her terribly.

I am normally a very emotional person and I am surprised that I made it through the day without crying. Maybe it is b/c I know that I will see her soon or it might be b/c reality has not set in yet.

She and I always talk on the phone every night, so I'm sure that tonight will not be any different. So, that helps.

As James Taylor's "You've Got a Friend" plays on my radio, I begin to realize that when I come into work on Monday, her office will be empty. No pictures on the wall, no laughing coming from down the hall, I'm just afraid work won't be fun at all.

I really like my other coworkers, it is just that Michael and I have a wonderful relationship...we were like sisters...we still are. She was always so honest to me...told me what I needed to hear rather than what I wanted to hear. She was my cheerleader, my coach, my friend, and my sister. She will still be all those things, but I won't have her in the office next door to me. I'll call her everyday...I'll see her often...I'll remember her forever.

I've been blessed to have so many wonderful friends in my life, and Michael is one of them. So, today, I celebrate all the people who have made me who I am. Today is a day that I have truly cherished friendship, as I need to do everyday.

The amazing poet, Maya Angelou, says....

"The happy heart

runs with the river,

floats on the air,

lifts to the music,

soars with the eagle,

hopes with the prayer."

Another statement from Dr. Angelou continues to put my thoughts into words:

"Your life is much more important

than you can imagine.
A little tenderness between people

can make life more bearable,

and a lot of tenderness...

my goodness.
Life is a gift...

let us respond

with grace and courtesy."

Michael has given me a happy heart whenever she is around and I am thankful for her.

We kid about the name that her parents wanted to give her before she was born...."Sunshine Moonbeam". We have joked about that many times. Now, I understand why her parents considered it. She has always been a ray of sunshine and always brightens my day. (I know....mushy and stupid, right??? That's the cool thing about being among friends and acting stupid is that they still love you anyway. --- Michael and I are definitely friends....we've shared many dumb moments together.)

SPAM on my BLOG!!!

Okay, it's not enough that I receive a million emails every day telling me about medications "that will improve [or enhance] my sex life" or "consolidating my debt", but now, I have had a SPAM posting on my blog. That's a little ridiculous!!!!

I clicked on the name for the profile of the person who posted the message. There is no bio/profile, just the screen name.

Has anyone else had this problem???

Click here to view the comments on my last post where I received a "SPAM" post.

I guess it never takes long for the mass marketers to get their grimy hands on something.
----Even though I am a marketing professional, I still get really upset with SPAM and telemarketers. Sorry:(

Memories Escaping...

I decided to write a poem about my granddad. I wish I could help him.

Memories Escaping

Memories escape him
Just like a balloon.
They fly away
Right out of the room.

He can talk about the war
Just like it was yesterday.
But he can't remember
being there for my wedding day.

They had to sell his house
and pack up all his things
he had to move from the playground of his children
and leave the porch swing.

He has been battling for a while now
I am sure he misses her love and care
he could use her help now
if she could only be there

I don't know how long he'll fight
or if he'll go during the night

But I know that when he sees her
his fight will be through
and he can tell her
that we miss her too.
~Jennifer Renee Wood-Wagner

(It's not my Nana's writing. But I hope she's listening. I hope she knows how much we all miss her.)

A poem of young love...

Here is a poem about my Nana and Granddad.... I thought it was so sweet.

REMINISCING
She was sixteen, he was twenty--
A giddy girl and a quiet young man,
A chance meeting at a carnival in town--
That's the way it all began.

Reflection of a silvery moon
Shimmering on waters below,
A timid kiss in the still of the night
And two young hearts aglow.

A summer of Sunday drives,
Double dates in a '33 Ford,
A movie, a hot dog and a coke--
Luxuries he could afford.

But off to the war he must go,
The year was nineteen-forty-two.
Letters back and forth across the sea--
There was lots of growing up to do.

The war was over, he was safely home.
Her high school graduation was past.
Two weeks of getting reacquainted
And their wedding day at last.
~Gloria Hall Wood

As I was reading and posting this poem, I wondered what it was like back then. If she could be here to tell me more about that time in her life. Also, when I began reading this poem, I thought, "Times were so different back then." After reading the poem, I realized that many things are not. We are still sending soldiers overseas and their loved ones are here at home and wondering if/when they are coming home.

I pray for the safety of our soldiers anywhere and everywhere. I am so thankful that they are fighting for us...just as my grandfather did.

From My Porch Swing

I came across this poem in the book this evening. I don't know why I hadn't seen it before. I guess the title caught my eye.... I think she's been speaking to me all along...I just haven't been listening hard enough.

From My Porch Swing
Yellow buttercups glow
In morning sunshine.
Sweet-smelling honeysuckle and
Red rambling rose are entwined.
Birds sing praises
As they swoop in and out of
The old maple tree, gathering bounty
For the open mouths of their babes.
The earth is alive,
Freshly bathed by a summer rain.
It's June!
~Gloria Hall Wood

I was a calendar girl...once.

My grandmother wrote a poem about all of her grandchildren in her book entitled, "Storehouse of Memories". The poem that she wrote about me was called, "OUR CALENDAR GIRL". It tears me up every time I read it. Mostly because she isn't here....and there are other reasons that I will discuss in a later post. I miss her. I hope she knows that.

Before I start crying too hard, here's the poem....

A calendar was a Christmas gift
from Jennifer to me.
I opened the present and
a prettier gift I shall never see.

Blonde curls, blue eyes and dimples---
She's a real beauty.
A smile that melts my heart---
She's our calendar cutie.

She's a knock-out in a bikini.
She's a picture in a plaid shirt and blue jeans.
She's a dream in a straw hat and sundress,
And in a pamper, she steals the scene.

Each day of nineteen-eighty-two
I'll look up and see
Our pretty little calendar girl
Smiling at me.

With this poem, there are pictures of me from that calendar. As soon as I can scan the page, I'll post it. It's kinda cute.

(I don't know where she got the bikini line, though...I guess b/c it was so long ago. HA HA)

My other grandmother...

Okay, so I write frequently about my grandmother (maternal grandmother), but I haven't mentioned much about my paternal grandmother(yet). She was a published writer/poet and she always inspired me. Her work inspires me to continue to write and try to be as wonderful as she was. She was a writer from the heart. She was smart, even though she was very modest about her intelligence. I have a million questions for her...if only she was here with me again.

She was a wonderful wife, mother, grandmother, talented writer, and a woman with a strong spirit.

My memories with her was what inspired the name of my blog. "On the Porch Swing" - There were many wonderful moments spent on the large porch swing on my grandparents' porch. She would sing hymns and other songs to me. We would play games and just chat out on the RED porch. If I recall, the wood on the deck/porch needed treating and they painted it red. I don't really know why, but I remember thinking how pretty it was. I thought it was special. Not many people in our neighborhood had a red porch. All the kids played on the BIG RED PORCH.

In the summer, the grandkids and other members of the family would gather at Nana's and Granddad's for homegrown green beans and new potatoes, corn on the cob, and other special summer foods. Summer get togethers also included cold soda pop in the glass bottles. The pop was usually used to wash down the marshmallow pinwheel cookie that she gave us. We wouldn't tell that we had the cookie because none of us were supposed to have them. She let us have one so that she could sneak herself one. She was a diabetic and after she took her insulin shots, she would take the needles out of the syringe and rinse it out. Then, the cousins would use bowls of water and the clean (needleless) syringes as waterguns. As always, it escalated to the boys getting the water hose out and before we knew it, we were all drenched.

Then, at Thanksgiving and Christmas, we would gather at the small house full of love for a joyous holiday feast. There were so many cousins and I loved spending time there.

The fondest memory that I have, besides the porch chats, were the times that Nana would share her stories and poems with me. I spent a lot of time admiring her typewriter in her room. I loved her stories....

I remember going with her to meet with some of the writers in her writing club at a local restaurant. She ordered me a chocolate milkshake. I enjoyed it while enjoying "grown up" literary conversation. At the time, I thought I knew what they were talking about...okay, so I was pretending. I always pretended to be "grown up" when my parents/family members had company around.

My Nana wrote stories and poems about all of her grandchildren. (I will post those soon.)

I have three of her books. One is a collection of family stories and poems, one is a collection of stories and poems from the Writing Club, and there is another family-related book with pictures and history of the family members.

Over the next few posts, I will be writing more about my Nana and her wonderful stories and poems.

For now, I would like to show you two of her poems that she wrote in "My Family Album" that will give you a glimse into why she inspired me, even though I was so young when I knew her.

MY DESIRE

A Robert Frost or Browning

I'm sure I will never be.

The wit and charm of Irma Bombeck

was never meant for me.

I would like to be a writer,

Or a poet, with meaningful thought---

To write something that someone will enjoy,

Though it may not amount to a lot.

To write a story of interest

Or just a cute little rhyme;

To describe a scene of beauty

Or depict a day and a time.

Something with human interest

And a bit of history;

Maybe a little humor,

Or a touch of mystery.

Ability to put thoughts and feelings in writing

Is something I have hoped to acquire.

To paint a pretty picture with words

Has always been my desire.

~Gloria Hall Wood

JUST A THOUGHT

Sometimes we worry that we don't accomplish much

As we go along our way,

But sometimes the little kindesses we do

Or an encouraging word we might say

Might help some stumbling foot

As it trods from day to day.

To make someone's load a little lighter

Sometimes it isn't hard to do---

To make his day a little brighter

With a cheery word or two.

Just a cup of kindness given

Will be returned to you.

~Gloria Hall Wood

I truly hope that I make her proud. There are many things about my Nana that I want to share. I want to share what she did for me with you...in hopes that maybe she can still inspire others even when she is only with us in spirit.